This exploration delves into the depths of what it means to embody bravery, drawing profound insights from the wisdom of two Black therapists and authors who have illuminated the Enneagram and its role in understanding how we navigate the world. This approach, inspired by works like "No Justice, No Peace" by Deborah Egerton and "The Enneagram for Black Liberation" by Chichi Agorom, offers a powerful framework for self-awareness, resilience, and collective liberation.

The Foundation: Understanding Fear and Our Protective Armor
Fear is a natural, biological response to threat, not a sign of weakness or moral failure. However, in systems that thrive on control, fear is intentionally cultivated. Authoritarian and fascist regimes, for instance, don't solely rely on force; they wield fear made ordinary, overwhelming, exhausting, and disengaging good people.

This chronic exposure to danger leads us to develop "armor" – patterns of behavior and personality traits that form as protection. The Enneagram offers a detailed map of these protective strategies, which can manifest in various ways:

• Perfectionism: Striving for flawlessness.
• Caregiving/People-Pleasing: Focusing on the needs of others.
• Excellence/Achievement: Driven by accomplishment.
• Knowledge/Intellectualism: Using understanding for security.
• Withdrawal/Observation: Detaching to gain perspective.
• Vigilance/Loyalty: Staying on guard and committed.
• Adaptability/Enthusiasm: Seeking positive experiences.
• Strength/Assertiveness: Projecting power.
• Disappearance/Peacekeeping: Blending in or avoiding conflict.
• Optimism/Joy-Seeking: Maintaining a positive outlook.

Beneath this armor lies a universal longing: to be safe, secure, seen, and loved unconditionally.
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Justice, Peace, and the Indispensable Role of Truth
A crucial insight presented is that "peace is not the absence of conflict. Peace is the presence of justice." This redefines our understanding of tranquility, shifting it from a passive state to an active pursuit rooted in fairness. Furthermore, "justice always begins with truth."

When we experience fear, it is often a sign that we are paying attention to an unjust reality. Truth-telling is therefore presented not just as an act of honesty, but as "holy work." The video prompts introspection:

• What are you afraid of right now?
• What does your body know that your words haven't yet named?
• What truth about your life have you avoided because it felt safer not to name it?
• What has been normalized that is actually harming you?

Refusing to acknowledge these truths means choosing a lie that everything is fine, or that our struggles are simply a matter of being "tired" or "that's just how it is."

The Nature of Bravery: Beyond Fearlessness
Bravery is often misunderstood as the absence of fear, but the video clarifies that it is something far more nuanced and potent. True bravery is not about being fearless, constantly confronting, or sacrificing oneself to the point of breaking – these definitions often serve oppressive systems by ensuring resistance burns out.
Instead, bravery is revealed in:

• Staying Human: Maintaining empathy and connection.
• Discernment, Not Silence: Making conscious choices rather than passively staying quiet.
• Connection, Not Isolation: Building and nurturing relationships.
• Rest as Strategy: Recognizing the power of rejuvenation.
• Care as Resistance: Nurturing oneself and others.
• Telling Truths: Sharing information that sustains life.
• Risking Vulnerability: Acting without guaranteed outcomes.
• Holding Unpopular Opinions: Speaking truth to power when justice is at stake.

Bravery is often quiet, collective, and slow. It acknowledges fear not as a barrier, but as an emotion that can be present while still choosing connection and action.

Embodiment and Liberation
The journey toward bravery and justice is deeply embodied. Peace must be felt – in our shoulders, our breath, our nervous systems. If our bodies are perpetually braced and our spirits vigilant, justice has not truly reached us. Peace without embodiment remains mere rhetoric.

Liberation, therefore, is not about becoming someone new but about remembering our essential selves, shedding the armor and protections that no longer serve us. It involves:

• Trusting Inner Wisdom: Believing that the answers we need reside within us, accessible through embodied listening.
• Recognizing Our Worth: Understanding that worth is not transactional and that we belong, not because we earn it, but inherently.
• Speaking Our Truth: Recognizing that silence in the face of harm is not peace, and our presence matters.
• Challenging Survival Stories: Questioning narratives that say we must earn belonging, stay quiet, or carry burdens alone.

Finding Bravery in Action and Community
History offers countless examples of embodied bravery:

• Acts of Resistance: In Nazi Germany, bravery was hiding neighbors, passing information, and teaching banned ideas – small, relational acts rooted in conscience.
• Sustaining Community: During Apartheid, it meant protecting dignity, organizing quietly, and keeping culture alive.
• Showing Up Anyway: In the Civil Rights Movement, bravery was facing terror, holding each other, singing to regulate fear, and allowing rest so the work could continue.
• Modern Movements: The Black Lives Matter movement, fights for bodily autonomy, and advocacy for human rights worldwide demonstrate ongoing bravery in demanding change.

These acts remind us that bravery under oppressive systems is not about grand gestures alone but about sustaining ourselves, our communities, and our truth.
Personal Journeys of Courage
The video emphasizes that embracing our own journey involves discernment and courage:

• Divorce as a Brave Choice: Letting go of relationships that no longer serve, without villainizing those involved, is an act of bravery. It’s about recognizing that sometimes bravery means leaving, and sometimes it means staying.
• Ancestral Strength: Finding inspiration in the resilience and sacrifices of ancestors who navigated immense challenges.
• Seeking New Opportunities: Embracing change and transformation, even when it brings uncertainty.
• Rituals and Community: The power of ceremonies, like uncoupling rituals, to mark transitions and foster support.
• Self-Compassion: Learning to receive care, attention, and pleasure without needing to earn it.
• Sharing Wisdom: Understanding that insights and wisdom are meant to circulate and protect more than just ourselves.

Embracing Our Essence
​Beneath the armor, we discover not chaos, but our essence. This essence holds courage that is wise, love that is discerning, and power that is relational. Hope is not passive; it is a practice we must cultivate daily.
Justice does not ask us to disappear. Peace does not ask us to endure endlessly. Faith does not ask us to override our bodies. By understanding our fears, acknowledging our armor, and embracing the truth of our experiences, we can step more fully into our embodied bravery, fostering resilience, justice, and liberation for ourselves and our communities.

by Taryn Chase, LPC, LCADC

Shelter in Place Day 84...

2016 hours. That’s how long it has been since the state shut down all “non essential” business in the state of New jersey. Since March 21st, we have been confined to our homes and only allowed to access essential business such as the grocery store and the liquor store. Even now as I write this, we can only access these places while masked and keeping a distance between us. When you struggle with using alcohol or other substances, this takes on a whole new meaning. I have been working with people who have experienced negative consequences from their use for going on 8 years and one of the first things we talk about is building a sober support network and changing their peoples, places and things that they surround themselves with.
When this first began, I recall people hoarding and bulk shopping for items such as hand sanitizer, toilet paper, and alcohol. Since mid-march we have been bombarded with social media posts and TV ads encouraging “wake and bake”, “its 5’oclock somewhere”, “breakfast beer”, “day drinking” and other messages normalizing behaviors that for many would only be considered acceptable while on vacation and having no responsibilities. While there are many of us working from home for the last 2 months, we often find ourselves with extra time on our hands and feeling like we can be less formal and strict about certain boundaries. Nothing could be further from the truth. Now more than ever we need to focus more on setting boundaries for ourselves and maintaining that separation form home and work.

We no longer have the luxury of being able to go and connect with our support network as before. While we live in a digital age of connectivity and being able to talk with people halfway around the world, we struggle to connect with those who are close to us and feel more alone than ever. When struggling with problematic substance related behaviors, this is a barrier to getting help and getting clean. For so many the in person meetings with sponsors and weekly/daily meetings were their only supports and helped them to feel a sense of belonging and allowed for greater accountability.

Despite this need for physical distancing, we can create meaningful connections and networks for support over the internet. Most if not all the local mutual support and self help meetings have moved their meetings online and, from those who have gone to them, they have been a great way to ensure that they stay connected in their journey and recovery until they are able to meet in person again for that fellowship.

Therapy is a great tool in conjunction with meetings to help get perspective regarding the underlying events and feelings that impact and influence our use. It can be hard to talk about these feelings because of the guilt and shame and stigma that is associated with addiction and problematic use. When we are not used to talking about feelings or mental health it can feel foreign to reach out for help. We have a number of compassionate therapists who specialize in treatment of addiction. Read more about them here.

One of the skills we can use to combat these feelings is Tapping. This is a physical grounding technique that one can pair with positive self talk to help reduce these feelings. See this video for more details.  Learn more about Mindful and Multicultural Counseling's approach to addiction treatment. 

​Just know that you are not alone. There is no shame in asking for help to heal.

Feel free to reach out to us and let us get you connected with one of our therapists to help you on your journey.

If you or some one you know is struggling with addiction, please call 18442762777 to speak with a care coordinator and get connected with a treatment provider close to you.

If you are looking for online meetings please visit www.helpaameetingfinder.org/online or virtual.na.org

Who do you want to be during COVID-19? Are you living your best life? Are you ready to reach out for help.  Call us.  We are located in Ewing, NJ and now doing telehealth (online) sessions.