by Nathalie Edmond, Psy.D.- E-RYT
IMAGINE…That’s my word for 2020. Today is my mother’s birthday. She died two years ago at the age of 66, right before her 67th birthday. Just two years after retirement. I recently read an article that said that people who retire after 60 from their full-time, stressful jobs lower their life expectancy significantly. My mother worked hard until right before her 65th birthday. I remember how stressed she was the last few years of working. Her body was tired from many years of overnights and an irregular sleep schedule, stressors around selling her home, the harsh NJ winters, but she wanted to get to her full retirement so she could have plenty of money for retirement. She didn’t even know she had cancer until the last weeks of her life and she spent her life as a nurse. Her sudden death was a turning point for me. Her mother also died young as did my father’s mother. Both I believe were in their 50s when they died. I don’t know how much life I have left but I am clear that I want to spend time doing the things that matter. That requires me to IMAGINE my fullest life right now. Not in a few years. Not in retirement. Right now. I can do that responsibly financially while also shedding the scarcity mindset I adopted long ago. The part of my brain that tells me that I can’t rest for long periods of time. That there is more money to be made and more goals to accomplish before I can be free. IMAGINE….I am enough. I have enough.
What step can we each take this new year, new decade to live our most authentic, freeing, and purposeful life doing the things that we value. What matters to you? What do you value? I want you to imagine a year of taking care of yourself. Taking care of your mental health and your wellness. Making time for therapy, meditation, yoga to care for your whole self. Imagine having more energy, loving yourself more, having more resources available to deal with life’s daily stressors. Imagine working through childhood traumas and hurts that impact how you see the world now and how you are in relationship with others. Imagine changing your relationship to the should. Imagine having more purpose and meaning in your life. Imagine a life with less addictions. Imagine feeling more connected to yourself and others. Imagine feeling less depressed, less anxious, less angry. Imagine more time exercising, relaxing, doing hobbies, having pleasurable experiences. Imagine seeing all the gifts you have rather than focusing on what is not working. Imagine juggling your multiple roles with more ease. Imagine a different relationship to your body. Imagine a space for forgiveness and peace in your life. Sometimes you need a therapist to help you sort through your life and your feelings so you can make choices that support your well-being. Moving from surviving to thriving. Imagine thriving…What does that look like for you?
What are some of the barriers? Do you think therapy isn’t for you? We know so much more about the connection between mind, body, and spirit and how taking care of one aspect can positively impact the other areas of your life. Are you concerned about seeing a therapist when you are available, cost, location? What if you could get your needs met in one place? Mindful and Multicultural Counseling offers all these services. We value making therapy, meditation and yoga affordable and inclusive. We are in network with Horizon Blue Cross Blue Shield. We offer sliding fee scale. We are a group practice located in Ewing, NJ. That means a team of diverse women available six days per week during the day, evening and weekends. Not ready for individual therapy. Check out one of our groups- learn skills to manage your emotions with DBT or join our Mother’s Circle if you need postpartum support. Want a women’s group therapy to explore relational and self esteem issues? We have that too. Or check out one of the monthly meditation workshops or the upcoming yoga for depression series.
What do you IMAGINE for yourself in 2020? What’s the tone that you want to set for this new decade? Give us a call 609-403-6359 or check here for therapist bios and availability.